The determination you require to change when you NEED to get out of something that is bothering you is different from the determination you require to change when you are in a comfortable position but, you WANT to change for the long-term goals you have.

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Need and rage can work in 1st scenario but it takes discipline and persistence for the latter.

I think this is the reason why we see a lot of successful students/founders/people from economically poor families. My mom always says “when they are able to do why are we unable to do? We have a lot of facilities that can help us nourish more on the attributes we want to work on and be successful in them. Then why are we unable to achieve them by living a life with chances and facilities”? I think it is because it's not a ‘need’ for us anymore; It is a ‘want’. I want to travel the world, I want to start a company, I want to become a millionaire, and I want more of them again. But these are all ‘wants’. I am in a safe place where I earn enough to be satisfied, where I work in a safe and nourishing environment for the future. So I don't feel the need to get into a better place immediately right now. I really would want it sometime in my life but it is not like unless I do it, I am not in a good place or a safe and happy place.

In economics, need is defined as something that is necessary for survival, while a want is defined as something that is desired. Needs are based on physiological or safety requirements, while wants are based on psychological or social desires.

So in search of that, the people who are from the economically poor background are often seen in very successful places being the first rankers or cracking a free seat in universities or cracking civil services or doing something huge because it's a dire need in their life at some point of time. That is a trigger. It's like do or die for them.

Unless I feel the need to get out of the job I'm doing right now and be in a better position as soon as possible or there are one or a few more reasons that trigger me to be out of the place where I am right now, I don't think the determination I need to be where I WANT to be in will kick in. Till then I will definitely be full of excuses. Full of ‘I don't have time for this mindset’.

So now, how do we get into the mode of being determined about something even if it is a want and not a need? I tried to figure this out in the past few months as I am in a safe place working, having a healthy relationship with the employers, and spending time on personal growth (at a slow pace). It felt like suffering and frustrating as I am not getting into the path which will take me to where I want to be so I had to figure out a way.

PS: Literally, it became a NEED to figure out how to be determined and achieve a WANT which has no push for itself

I got an answer finally! I didn’t like it though (I still don’t like it). So it took time to accept it and start working on it. Definitely, you will not like the answer as well. This might sound very cliche and redundant as we already know it but we don’t pay enough attention or importance to it.

So unless I get into a proper discipline set for the goals I want to achieve, I am sure I am not going to be there by the time I want to be there. I think discipline and consistency are the prices we pay to be determined even if it is a want and not a need.